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Friday, September 14, 2007

6 Ways Of Dealing with Temper Tantrums

1. Cooler Heads Prevail. You should remain calm in the midst of a tantrum. It goes without saying that these episodes can be as frustrating for you as they are for your love ones. But remaining in control of yourself and your emotions sets a positive example. It shows your love ones that you value calm communication and conflict resolution.

2. Think Before You Act. Take a few seconds to evaluate the situation before you decide on an action. Each temper tantrum calls for its own action and you can deal with them in several ways

3. Give Her Frustration a Nod. Acknowledge your love ones’s frustration without condoning the tantrum. This validation can have a soothing effect. Let her know that you understand she is upset, but also let her know there is a better way of handling it. Show her better ways of expressing her wants and needs.

4. The Talk. Do not try to talk or reason with your love ones when she is in the throes of a tantrum. It does not work. It also increases both your frustration levels. When the temper tantrum has run its course, discuss her behavior. Use this time to teach her positive ways to handle anger and frustration.

5. Head Them Off. By studying your love ones's tantrums, you may identify certain patterns. This can help you avoid some trigger situations. Ask when and where do they occur? What happens directly beforehand? Are specific people present? Use this information to keep tantrums to a minimum.

6. Offer Comfort. Tantrums can take a toll on your love ones. Often, when it is over, they are not even sure why they were angry in the first place. Offer they need a warm hug and some reassurance. Let them know you disapprove of tantrums, but that you love them.

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