I was surfing the net and reading blogs and bloghopping when I came across a blog owned by a gay couple. I know most of you are homophobic and sometimes no matter what amount of stories that are send across to you, you'r still homophobic.
Nevertheless, the most heartwarming thing about them is they are of different races.
While a gay/lesbian relationship has the sames ups and downs as a heterosexual relationship, there's one difference that they have to keep in mind. No matter how confident they are in themselves and in their relationship, we live in a society where the majority does not value their relationships.
My friend, David, is lucky to work in an office where his boss is a lesbian, there are a few gay and lesbian co-workers, and most people seem to be supportive. If he mention that his partner isn't feeling well, people ask about him the next day. His boss understands if he need to come in late because he need to go with him to the doctor. His boss understood why he needed to take off work when his brother and his father died.
If you don't work in a supportive environment, you may feel like you have to make excuses or live a double life. Living behind even just a few white lies is difficult. When David has been in such a situation, he was always nervous that he would get "caught." It added to the stress of the job, which affected how he felt in general.
Any kind of stress can affect your relationship. Stress is what leads you to take things out on others. You are more likely to feel on edge, yell at other drivers on the road, or act out in ways you wouldn't normally.
If it isn't an unsupportive work environment that gives you stress, it may be the family dance you have to play, or the pretense you have to keep up with neighbors or your children's friends or parents or any number of other people in your life.
Because gay/lesbian couples are more likely to have additional stress, give yourself a break. If your partner snips at you when he/she comes home from work, ignore it. Your partner may just be letting off a little steam. Don't make it into anything more.
Find ways to de-stress together. Go to the park, visit your local gay/lesbian bookstore, get a massage, light some candles and take a bath together.
Anything you can do to bring the tension down will help reduce the built-up stress. And with less stress, you are less likely to snip at each other.
My friend, David, is lucky to work in an office where his boss is a lesbian, there are a few gay and lesbian co-workers, and most people seem to be supportive. If he mention that his partner isn't feeling well, people ask about him the next day. His boss understands if he need to come in late because he need to go with him to the doctor. His boss understood why he needed to take off work when his brother and his father died.
If you don't work in a supportive environment, you may feel like you have to make excuses or live a double life. Living behind even just a few white lies is difficult. When David has been in such a situation, he was always nervous that he would get "caught." It added to the stress of the job, which affected how he felt in general.
Any kind of stress can affect your relationship. Stress is what leads you to take things out on others. You are more likely to feel on edge, yell at other drivers on the road, or act out in ways you wouldn't normally.
If it isn't an unsupportive work environment that gives you stress, it may be the family dance you have to play, or the pretense you have to keep up with neighbors or your children's friends or parents or any number of other people in your life.
Because gay/lesbian couples are more likely to have additional stress, give yourself a break. If your partner snips at you when he/she comes home from work, ignore it. Your partner may just be letting off a little steam. Don't make it into anything more.
Find ways to de-stress together. Go to the park, visit your local gay/lesbian bookstore, get a massage, light some candles and take a bath together.
Anything you can do to bring the tension down will help reduce the built-up stress. And with less stress, you are less likely to snip at each other.
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