You Deserve...

You deserve someone who will look at you and know that you are good enough. Someone who will not let you struggle on whether or not you’re worth it, because you are. How people see you or label you doesn’t add, change or deduct who you are.

You deserve someone who will never require you to change in order to fit other people’s standards. Because they understand that our eyes see things, places and people out of our own perspectives and lenses. That in actuality, we don’t see all these by what they are, we see it by what we really are – a reflection of our heart and soul.

You deserve someone whom you don’t have to verify yourself to. Someone who will never see you as too much of this, too much of that, someone who will embrace all your edges and be sure that if not for your edges, you won’t be YOU.

You deserve someone who will never make you feel like you have to be their monumental idea of who you should be. Someone who will understand that the way you talk, the way you dress, the way you carry yourself is what makes you unique, and unique is beautiful. Someone who will look at you and will love your bad parts as much as they love your good parts.

You deserve someone who will never overthink your flaws.Someone who will realize how difficult it has been for you to love and embrace who you are, thus never allowing conclusively insignificant people ruin it in second tops.

You deserve someone who will exist to see the beauty in you.Someone who will see you with your morning face, smell your morning breath and hear you fail a note as you belt out your favorite song. Someone who will see you lick your chocolate coned ice-cream in the most unattractive way, see you fart, see you eat a hotdog you’ve already dropped – and will still find you beautifully attractive.

You deserve someone who will stay with you during the stormy days and assures you that there will be a rainbow somewhere along the way. Someone who will inspire you, encourage you, push you beyond your own limits. Someone who will trust your talents and abilities even when you can’t trust your own. Someone who will love you at your most critical moments, even those moments when you can’t even love yourself.

You deserve someone who will see you with your bad days and also with your good days. Someone who will see you in your most despairing moments and also in your joyous ones. Someone who will see you from flaw to flaw and embrace every single thing about it. Someone who will see you at your ugliest and bitchiest moments, someone who will see you at your worst and will STILL love you for it.

You deserve someone who will see an intelligent human being even when you don’t make any sense. Someone who will see a genuinely happy person even when you’re being too foolish. Someone who will see the smiles, the misadventures and the facades, but more than that, will see your real substance.

You deserve someone who will see beyond the outer, who will see a smart, beautiful person who fiercely fight to survive life.Someone who will regard the intensity of bravery she’s amounted to. Someone who will recognize her strong pursuit to overcome life’s hardest moments.

You deserve someone who will never give you shit talk about who you are nor lectures you to change. You deserve someone who will be there for you. Patiently loving you for every good and every bad part of yourself. Constantly understanding that this is who you are, and as long as you don’t overstep your boundaries and you respect the people around you, you’re good. They’re good.

You deserve someone who will see you and know that you are worth so much more than meets the eye.

You deserve someone who will love you in your entirety.

5 Important Qualities to look for in LOVE.

Chemistry

1. We flirt, play and enjoy each other’s company. Emotional, mental and physical connection is a priority.

2. Physical attraction is an absolute must. Especially behind closed doors. Passions on top of passions.

Clear Communication

3. We leave little room for miscommunication. We feel comfortable to express our thoughts freely and respectfully.

4. We actually talk on the phone, go on dates, etc. versus meaningless text messaging. A man who can pick up a phone to call to say hello and tell me he is thinking of me is great start.

Commitment

5. Committed to love all my awes and flaws through the good times and the bad times. It’s life! It ain’t perfect. After a recent breast cancer scare, I kept wishing that there was someone by my side who would be there with unconditional love and support.

6. Fidelity is essential. Cheating is selfish. I rather be single if that is the case.

Compassion

7. Loves his family. This is a great indicator how he will love your family. My son is my family. Eventually, when I find someone I want to build a future with, I want to know he has a good heart and will love my son unconditionally.

8. He has a compassionate heart for everyone around him. Does he volunteer his time? Will he be there if someone is in need? Now that is someone that is really attractive.

Compatibility

9. We need to share some hobbies and activities in common. I never said all. It’s about creating bonds.

10. We just click and overtime we grow to be best friends. If you are entrusting your heart and life in another, wouldn’t you want that to be your best friend? He should be your confidante and number one supporter.

10 Things to Say to Your Partner Instead of ‘I Love You’

Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check in with your partner each day — or multiple times a day.

Except that when you say it so often, the phrase can become rote. How often do you say those three words, “I love you,” without stopping to think about the fact that you love this person? Most of the time, right? Again, there’s nothing wrong with this. We’re all busy. We have jobs to do, Facebook statuses to update, weeds to pull, mail to open, sex to have. If we paused to consider what it means to love someone every time we said “I love you,” we’d never have time to shop for groceries.

That all said, sometimes it’s nice to stop and actually think about how much your partner means to you. So here are 10 things you can say to your partner to convey this — words that are much harder to recite without thinking about what they really mean. Especially the parts that make you blush. Just don’t use them all up in one day!

1. You’re so effing hot.

That sneaky swear word is there to say: I’m so overwhelmed by how good-looking you are that only an f-bomb will truly convey my feelings.

2. I’m more in love with you today than I was yesterday.

We like the specificity of this. It’s not just that you love your partner more than you used to — it’s that today you actually sat down and thought about the fact that your love grew in the past 24 hours.

3. You just made me laugh so hard I almost peed my pants.

OK, maybe skip the pee mention. But you get the idea. Fortunately, for long-term monogamous couples, a sense of humor doesn’t droop in the same way an aging penis or aging boobs do. Still, it’s easy to forget how funny your partner is. This is a reminder to take the time to make each other laugh... and to appreciate it when it happens.

4. I love your body.

When’s the last time you said something like this to your partner? Sure, they know you love them, but do they know you still lust after their body? Stare and ogle all you like — at some point in a relationship, this starts to feel like a compliment.

5. I hate everybody today, but you — you I can stand.

Because sometimes a muted compliment is the best compliment of all. And on some days, the best we can hope for in marriage is that we’re with someone we can stand, day in and day out.

6. I love watching you run/give a speech/play an instrument/take a photograph.

Standing back and admiring your partner is a way to increase the erotic distance between the two of you... and to remind you and your partner what it was like when you two met, and you each thought the other was the bee’s knees.

7. I love it when we talk, and I love it when we don’t.

Talk is cheap, but companionable silence is something you have to work for.

8. You look even better now than when I met you.

Because aging gets everyone down. Even better if you can be specific: Find something about your partner that has improved with age — a leaner face, perhaps? a more muscular torso? — and compliment them on that.

9. I love to &#%$ you.

Because it doesn’t always have to be missionary when it’s monogamous, and it doesn’t always have to be “making love,” either.

10. I &#%$ing love you.

Just try saying this without meaning it. It’s impossible!

If he does these things, he LOVES you!

Has your guy been fairly silent in the four-letter-word department, and you're trying to figure out if he loves you or not?

Not everyone is vocal (or obvious) about their feelings, and so many of us often find it difficult to express those deeper emotions out of a fear of rejection, commitment or simply never having said "I Love You" before.

Here are some subtle, silent things that let you know he's fallen for you:  

1. His kisses are long and passionate.

Who doesn't love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he's continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he's more than just a little excited to be around you.

2. His friends love you.

If all his buddies are starting to warm up to you and truly seem to enjoy your company, it could be because they know how happy you're making their friend — thus making them start to find you as awesome as he does.

3. He likes to get close.

You know how it's unnerving when somebody you're not interested in gets close to you? It's the complete opposite when someone you adore tends to be closer in distance than he is to other people. 

4. He smiles after kissing.

Sure, you can have a little sweet smile after kissing someone whose company you enjoy, but do you ever just feel like positively beaming when it's someone you love? If you catch him grinning after you kiss, it's a great sign that he truly enjoys your company.

5. He listens intently.

While he might not be saying much when it comes to your relationship and his feelings about it, the fact that he listens closely when you're talking is incredibly significant. He may lean in closer when you're discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.

6. He stands up straight ...  

Most of us tend to slouch and have poorer posture than we should. However, if you're trying to impress the person you care about most and want him or her to be most attracted to you, you're going to stand or sit straight up.

7. ... and squeezes your hand.

8. He calls or texts for no reason.

Not all people do this when in love, so don't take it personally if he doesn't. That said, it's a sign that he feels comfortable with you in non-romantic situations as well as the obvious ones, and that he's thinking of you throughout the day.

9. He sticks around.

Does he like to do activities together for no reason? For example, rather than just wanting to meet up at a dinner party, he'd rather go grocery shopping with you beforehand so the two of you can make a dish to bring together. Simply doing household things shows an interest in being closer than just casual daters or {{ sex partners.

10. He makes eye contact often.

When you're at a bar with friends, does he glance across the room just to make eye contact briefly and smile at one another? This indicates how, even when you two are doing different things, he still wants you to be aware of how much he cares.

11. He buys you "meaningful" gifts.

When I say "meaningful," I don't mean "expensive"; I mean that he spends effort and puts serious thought into finding you something that truly fits your personality to a T. I had one guy give me three pairs of socks: one with a crazy cute pattern, one specifically for boots and one for high heels. The week prior, I had gotten a blister on my foot due to not having thick enough socks for a pair of boots I had just purchased, so it was super sweet and a clear indication of his listening skills that he remembered.

12. He touches you spontaneously. 

When you're in a public place, does he put his fingers on your back to keep you close by? Does he hold your hand atop yours while you two are in a restaurant? Random closeness via touching shows that he wants to maintain physical contact, even when it's not sexual.

Everything they say about love is true. If you have ever been in love before, or if you are in love and need something to reignite your spark, let these memorable and timeless love quotes from movies, books and celebrities remind you.

The 5 Love Languages - Physical Touch

The language of physical touch doesn't only refer to physical touch and affection in the bedroom, but refers to the everyday physical connections, like handholding, kissing, pats on the back, and any type of re-affirming physical contact. A person who desires physical touch and affection isn't overly touchy-feely but for them touch shows how much their partner cares for them. If that physical bond is broken by abuse their entire relationship can be destroyed indefinitely.

The 5 Love Languages - Acts of Service

Hearing the phrase "let me do that for you" is music to our ears, but for people who see acts of service as the greatest expression of love, hearing this phrase is like hitting the jackpot! These individuals want their partners to notice that their own responsibilities are grand and sometimes daunting and that a helping-hand every once-an-a-while shows love and care. Just as much as these individuals love acts of service, they do not deal well with broken promises and laziness and have very little tolerance for people who make more work for them, because it shows a lack of value for them.

The 5 Love Languages - Receiving Gifts

Not all people who enjoy receiving gifts are "materialistic" this just means that for these individuals love is equated with a tangible gift. The gift doesn't have to be extravagant or elaborate, but it does have to be meaningful and thoughtful. So if you know that your partners favourite comedian or band is going to perform and you surprise them with tickets, that would show love behind the gift. But if you were to buy a gift certificate or an impersonal gift, prepare for some serious backlash.

The 5 Love Languages - Quality Time

For some people hearing "I love you", words of praise or compliments are what they value most. These individuals feel that words have more weight than actions and would rather hear "the reasons behind that love" versus any other expression of love. This also means that if something negative or insulting is said to one of these individuals it will not be easily forgiven.

The 5 Love Languages - Words of Affirmation.

For some people hearing "I love you", words of praise or compliments are what they value most. These individuals feel that words have more weight than actions and would rather hear "the reasons behind that love" versus any other expression of love. This also means that if something negative or insulting is said to one of these individuals it will not be easily forgiven.

TEN

One, you still move me;
Two, three, you send chills right through me;
Four, you keep me wanted more;
Five, when I look into your eye;
Six, you're my best friend;
Seven, that will never end;
Eight, nine, I don't know why, but thank God it happens every-time;
By the time I get to ten,
By the time I get to ten,
I can see how blessed I've been.

I'd chose you all over again...

A boy is ready to do anything to get want he wants. A man is ready to love without hesitation.

A boy will spend time with the friends of yours – if he likes them. A man will spend time with your friends regardless of his feelings towards them, because if they’re important to you, they’re important to him.

A boy makes rash decisions based on his immediate desires. A man understands the concept of being rational and having priorities.

A boy needs you because of his fragile self-esteem. A man needs you because he believes his life is better with you in it.

A boy is concerned with how you look to his friends. A man does not care about what other people think, as long as you’re happy together.

A boy is ready to do anything to get want he wants. A man is ready to love without hesitation.

A Boy VS A MAN in a Relationship

A boy makes you feel like you’re not good enough. A man makes you want to be a better person because you have so much genuine respect for him.

A boy is possessive. A man is protective.

A boy makes you feel like you need to downplay your accomplishments so as not to embarrass him. A man is not threatened by your success, but proud of it, and inspired by it.

A boy is concerned with his own pleasure. A man cannot enjoy himself unless he knows you are too.

A boy underestimates you. A man is not afraid to challenge you, because he knows what you’re capable of.

A boy will be interested in your life for as long as he can get something out of it. A man will be interested in your life because he cares about you and wants to understand you more deeply as a person.

A boy is threatened by the idea of feminism, convinced that being feminist classifies you as angry, aggressive, and man-hating. A man understands that feminism is simply the belief that men and women are equal.

A boy thinks he must provide for you. A man knows that a relationship means the two of you are providing equally for each other.

A boy bottles everything up, and lashes out because of anger or other pent-up emotions. A man admits when he needs you and when he needs to talk, even if it makes him uncomfortable.

The qualities Gemini man would appreciate in you.

      

In order to be loved by Gemini man, you should be:

- Endowed with imagination;

      - A little crazy;

      - Creative;

      - Immediate;

      - Sociable.

You may lose him if, you are:

      - Too serious;

      - Possessive;

      - Limit his freedom;

      - Ignore his passion;

      - Criticize his superficiality.

      Do not be afraid of the obstacles to win the heart of a Gemini man, it can be done by any woman, it is only important to act calmly and confidently.

Your relationship with a man born under the sign of Gemini will be something great, only if you manage to get his attention to your intelligence. So be talkative, well-expressed, and admire his speed and precision of thought. He will never be interested in a woman who has nothing to say, reticent and secretive.

     Of course, such a partner can bring him opposite of his character, but interest in her may be quickly extinguished. He will start to get bored because of the lack of spiritual contact, because, in his opinion, such contact should be born in the talks. 

     If you want to know what excites him in an intimate relationship, try to remember: there is no uniformity. Emotions can wake him only by the imagination and ingenuity, his interest in the cause itself - only variety in love games.

     The factor that you brought together to become an unexpected initiative on your part. Rest assured: constantly worrying about how to determine your intellectual views and intimate, you will become a treasure for him, which he does not want to lose.

At the same time, avoid actions that might annoy him. If you really want to win the heart of a Gemini, watch out to do what he can cause negative emotions and dislike you. By no means should take his personal freedom, which he appreciates.

     According to him, intelligence is the ability to express his thoughts with lightning speed, and his lady should all at once she understood, and not to question him about the little things, and things are not important.

How to Make a Man Fall Madly in Love With You

Keeping the fire in a relationship is an important task to both partners. If you feel like your man is slowly inching away from your relationship, it is time to make a move and make him fall madly in love with you again. There are a lot of ways that you can come up with to get his attention, but these seven tips below are the ones that are proven very effective in making him run to you in no time.

Try to be more mysterious Being an open book to your man would only make him less interested in you in the long run. The best thing to do is to leave hints to keep him speculating and at the same time to keep him interested.

Look hot all the time Looking hot is not for other men to drool over you - though in most cases, you cannot avoid it. But you have to look hot all the time so that your man can be proud of you. Once your man becomes the envy of other guys out there, rest assured, he would want to keep you longer.

Win the hearts of his friends Aside from winning his heart, an effective way of making him love you more is to win the hearts of his closest friends. You will find this handy when your relationship is on the rocks, and his friends come over to tell him how important you are.

Do not be afraid to try new things When you think that for the past years, you have been doing the same old routine with your relationship, it is time to think out of the box. Try to do something new or experience something new to bring back the fire in your relationship.

Listen to each other at all times Having a good conversation, whether it is over dinner or before you sleep is one of the most important things you have to maintain to keep your man in your arms. If you are always willing to listen to your man, he will definitely love you more.

Do not give yourself to him too easily If you are going out with a new guy, and you want him to give you the respect you require, do not give yourself to him on your first date. This will awaken him from his earthly desires and know that you are something that he should work hard for.

Do not try to change him If you want your man to love you more, you should not try to turn him into some prince charming that you read in fairytales. Men are not perfect. They have flaws and if you learn to love their flaws, they will surely love you in return.

Cool & Interesting Facts about Love and not Only...

Did you know that when you envy someone, it’s because you really like that person?

Did you know that those who appear to be very strong in heart are real weak and most susceptible?

Did you know that those who spend their time protecting others are the ones that really need some one to protect them? 

Did you know that the three most difficult things to say are: “I love you, Sorry and help me”

Did you know that those who dress in red are more confident in themselves?

Did you know that those who dress in yellow are those that enjoy their beauty? 

Did you know that those who dress in black are those who want to be unnoticed and need your help and understanding?

Did you know that when you help someone, the help is returned in two folds?

Did you know that it’s easier to say what you feel in writing than saying it to someone in the face? But did you know that it has more value when you say it to their face?

Did you know that what is most difficult for you to say or do is much more valuable than anything that is valuable that you can buy with money?

Did you know that you can make your dreams come true, like falling in love, becoming rich, staying healthy, if you ask for it by faith, and if you really knew, you’d be surprised by what you could do.

Floyd and Violet

8 secrets long-lasting couples do during argument that make them stick together

So, what’s the defining factor that led couples on the path to make or break? Well, it might not be due to the arguments or lack of, but in how arguments are handled within a relationship. Here are 8 secrets long-lasting couples do during argument that make them stick together. If you’re in a relationship, you’ll definitely have to hear about these today. Before it’s too late, yeah?

Set some ground rules of arguments

That’s like “conflict management 101”. Set some ground rules so both of you won’t go over the line.

Keep the argument slow

This means no screaming at each other right off the bat. Give both of you a chance to say your piece before rebutting each other’s point. If the argument starts building up and you realize you’re close to screaming at each other, do #3. It’s been proven that arguments that has a jumpstart in aggressiveness will never end well.

Know when to take a timeout

In arguments, emotions run high and people say things in the heat of the moment. Caustic barbs, digging up of past mistakes, name-calling, all these once said, you’d find, can be pretty hard to take back even if it’s not meant to be intentional. Know when to call a timeout, count silently to 10 before continuing the argument rationally. After all, you wouldn’t want the relationship to be broken because something you said can’t be taken back, especially if you had not meant it, right?

Keep pride out of the argument

You’ll be surprised at how often this is neglected by couples. Argue things out logically and rationally, don’t give in to irrational emotions like pride. It’ll cause the argument to escalate till the damage is done, because even if you know you’re wrong, you might continue arguing because you don’t want to lose your pride.

It’s all about give-and-take

It’s like the basic rule of any negotiation: everyone leaves the table with something. Most couples, when they argue, wants to win and the other party to lose. Learn to give in at times and you’ll realize that the relationship will be a happier and longer-lasting one.

Leave no stone un-turned

And this is probably one of the most important point you have to note in this article. Remember back in the past when a radio station did an advert on TV? Their tagline was, “Hear only the good thing.” This is somewhat similar, and you’ll realize that most couples stay far away from dangerous topics while talking and discussing the easy ones. The truly long-lasting couples will tackle all questions, be it easy or hard, so that they can prevent any potential problems from building up and erupting, making the entire situation non-salvageable.

Truly listen to each other

In an argument, you’re so consumed with the thought that you’re right you won’t bother going to hear the other side of the story. Couples who does this will find themselves arguing non-stop without a resolution met because, well, both wants the other to accept their line of thinking instead of taking in their opinions, deciding if they’re right and reaching an understanding.

Remember that you’re together

Okay, this advice might sound useless but it’s the most important point you have to remember. Both of you must always remind yourselves of the fact that after the argument, the both of you are still a couple. Be it in life or death, happiness or sickness, you’re a team, and if you remember that, you’ll be more willing to do #1 to #7. After all, the both of you love each other deeply, why on earth would you want to hurt each other than in the heat of the moment, right?

Conversations between couples have to be fun and yet, illuminating.

# Daily individual lives

Talk about each other’s daily events and activities. It can help both of you understand more about each other’s lives. Most couples ignore these conversations and end up drifting away from each other in no time.

# Movies and TV shows

Movies and television shows are perfect conversation makers for all couples. They provide for hours of gossiping and interesting conversations with a fresh perspective every day.

# Hobbies and interests

Do you like clubbing, painting or playing games? Talk about it with your partner. Our hobbies and interests change all the time, and keeping a lover in the loop will help both of you understand each other’s likes and dislikes better.

# Silent conversations

Silence is a beautiful thing in any relationship. Just being able to sit next to each other without feeling awkward or having to worry about what to talk about is a sign of a perfect relationship already.

18, Just #18

#1 Stretch the wooing period. Both of you may like each other a lot already. But don’t ask each other out too soon. Stretch the wooing for as long as both of you possibly can. The longer you play the chase, the more deeper and truer your love will be. Just enjoy the dating period for a while and both of you will truly value the relationship and the commitment to each other. 

#2 Fall in love with each other even before popping the question. As humans, we only enjoy something and value it when we’ve worked hard to achieve it. Even if there’s a lot of love in the air, let the confusion stay for a while. Linger for a few months, maybe even six months before both of you give your relationship a name.

By doing this, you’ll always remember your wooing and pursuing days forever and treasure every step you took before actually committing to each other. And if your partner couldn’t wait even a few months, could they really be satisfied with you for the rest of your life? 

#3 Don’t have sex for as long as you can hold it. Call me old fashioned, but in these days of fast love, all of us are ever ready to take a plunge into sex as soon as we possibly can. It’s not a bad thing, but at times, prolonging it can actually bring both of you closer without the confusion of sex and lust which can create a strong infatuation that can be confused with love.

#4 Go out of your way to please each other. Fairytales have a lot of evil plots. You really don’t need them in your life. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out of your way to do something special for your lover. At least in the first few months of love, put in your effort and labor of love to prove your love for this special person.